Spiritual Fathering and Sonship
There are many essential truths that can be addressed when dealing with the subject of Fatherhood and Sonship. Many leaders are assuming the title of “Father” without understanding the biblical definition and apostolic function of Fatherhood. It is a sad reality but many leaders have abused their role as Apostolic Father and Covering over others and as a result many sons and daughters have been left dysfunctional and spiritually desolate. This in turn produces a new generation of dysfunctional leaders who now does not know what it looks like to be a spiritual father due to the lack of being spiritually fathered.
There is a lot of familiarity in the Church when it pertains to the dynamics of spiritual fathering and mentoring. Many people are adopting the terms “spiritual father” and “spiritual son” as if it is a new fad in the Church. There is a distorted picture of what it looks like to be fathered. Some believe that Apostolic Fathering can come from books, cd’s, television broadcasting, and conferences but this is not so. How can you consider someone a spiritual father or covering when you don’t have an intimate, covenant relationship with that individual? The sad reality is that many people don’t understand the purpose and responsibilities of Apostolic Fathers. The same can be said about the role and purpose of spiritual sons and daughters.
The first thing that need to be realized is the reality of the nature of Fatherhood. Good sons turn into good fathers. Spiritual fathers have to master the discipline of sonship before they can walk into the role of fatherhood. Just because there is a call to pastor or father does not mean that you are automatically qualified to step into that role. Fatherhood takes a discipline that can only be learned as a son. This may take years of sitting under a leader who’s life is worth patterning after, but the end result will be the turning of one from a son into a mature man. When you posture yourself in submission to a spiritual father, you are positioning yourself for a blessing and an inheritance that can only be received as a son. When you honor your parents God not only honors you, but there is a transfer of blessing that occurs from you to your children. On the other hand. When you dishonor and bring shame to your Spiritual Father, dishonor is not only placed upon you, it is also placed upon your spiritual seed.
“And Noah began to be a farmer, and he planted a vineyard. 21 Then he drank of the wine and was drunk, and became uncovered in his tent. 22 And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father, and told his two brothers outside. 23 But Shem and Japheth took a garment, laid it on both their shoulders, and went backward and covered the nakedness of their father. Their faces were turned away, and they did not see their father’s nakedness.
24 So Noah awoke from his wine, and knew what his younger son had done to him. 25 Then he said: “ Cursed be Canaan; A servant of servants He shall be to his brethren.” Genesis 9:20-25
Notice that Noah did not directly curse Ham. Noah cursed Ham’s seed, Canaan. Because of Ham’s shameful act a curse was placed upon his son. This is why it is important to always place honor on your leaders and spiritual parents. Illegitimacy begets illegitimacy. However, true sons become true fathers and beget true sons.